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When you try to pursue a relationship
Posted By: tiredtim About Me
Posted On: 6/15/2009 11:16:34 PM

You know what? When you try to pursue a relationship with a lady, but you're unsure how do this, you're in jam. How do you pursue her? How do you know for sure she's in to you? I don't think things are always so black and white here. I mean when she says something to you private like "I feel safe with you, that I can trust you and share my opinions", how should I read that? The lady keeps talking to you for over 20 minutes in the dark. What does it mean? Does it mean anything?

When you try to make plans of telling her that you want to get to know her better and see if she wants to go and get something to eat so you two can talk, is that ridiculous? But then when you have that plan and it continues to fall through because too my people are around, do you give up? Do you take it as a sign that God doesn't want you to do this? Do you take it as a sign that you are to wait longer? Or do you take it as a sign that you just have to suck it up and work harder at it and not worry about other people being around you?

I'm going through this very thing and it's easy to get discouraged. I'm not like the ultra-outgoing person who is so perfect with his words that he can make every woman giggle.

Plus it doesn't help that she attends my Young Adult Sunday School class that I teach on Sunday morning and the Bible study on Thursdays that at the moment I'm also leading (though I usually don't). Is it strange to feel that since I'm in the position of teacher in both situations that I shouldn't bring up the topic of wanting to get to know her better? That has come into my mind quite a bit. I just don't know what to do.

And yet I like her. I was first captivated by her love for Christ, for her desire to do what He has for her to do, for her pursuit of knowing Him and His Word, for her questions and her answers that she gives in the 2 studies I'm leading. Through those things that I noticed first, it then accentuated and magnified her beauty that I hadn't paid any attention to. This is so strange. This is not how I usually am, and yet here I am feeling this way. So strange.

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When you try to pursue a relationship (tiredtim - 6/15)
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DId you?? (tiredtim - 6/26)
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You 2 have a great time (tiredtim - 7/1)
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patience (Rose - 7/6)
patience (tiredtim - 7/9)
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What more (Tiredtim - 7/12)
reading your post makes me have qustns too heheh (Rose - 7/13)

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